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To step into someone else’s shoes for a second and think about their struggles makes you a more mature person. There’s the saying that everyone is fighting their own battles and I try to carry this philosophy with me all the time.
That boy that has anger issues? He has an alcoholic father at home. That girl that makes fun of people for being overweight? She’s insecure herself. That teacher that everyone hates? She’s grieving the loss of her child that passed away.
There could be 100s of different explanations why someone is behaving in a weird manners. So before you label someone as lazy or unmotivated based on the situation they’re in, think about the possible trials they’ve faced in their lives.
Remember! Not everyone has equal access to opportunities.
While playing game of so-called “Ludo star” I was surprised that we have a lot to learn from this game. I am sharing my personal view and you can always give your input in comments.
- You never stop trying for 6s to roll because you want to be in the game. Similarly we should never give and keep trying.
- Sixes are important but Ones and Twos had their own values, especially when they helped me reaching the stop in critical situation. We shouldn’t ignore small things which can make us happy in life and run after the things which are yet far away.
- I learned that at some point of time I must take risks otherwise it is possible that my tokens are eaten all at the same time and I am back to square one because I played it too safe.
- Whenever my tokens were eaten, I didn’t whine over it, instead tried my level best for another 6 to roll and hoped that I will catch up and win.
- Sometimes it happened that all my 3 out of 4 tokens reached the finish square but the last one was eaten again & again and at the end I lost it badly. We should always support each other and move united, otherwise, it is possible that we leave one of our beloved ones far behind in trouble.
- It was very important for me to know about what is happening on the rest of the squares so that I can watch and move carefully.
- Sometimes I was too much in the game that I didn’t realize I wasted too much time for something which was not worth it.
And last but not least I earned millions but lost them all because I forgot that the risk should always be calculative and not that I can sloppily spend whatever I earned.
Time is changing so do we need to change!
Today our new generation is much more sensible than the old days or I would say that they have easy access to connect with the rest of the world which increases their chances to learn faster. What we knew at the age of 10-12, today’s kids already know in the age of 4-5.
In today’s day and age where unfortunately social media has been ranked among the top time wasters, Like many others I still have faith that with proper teach and training we can have a huge positive impact on child’s thinking.
This however starts from home;
From our children, brothers, sisters and even cousins and all those we can be easily influenced. They are our responsibly and we must take a step forward to help them living in a society with pride.
We have to let them feel free and take risks
We have to let them fight on their own and stop acting a super hero and rescue them too quickly
We have to change our behaviour and stop showing our children love and affection all the time, we must not raise them as spoiled children
We must understand that when our kids do something good, appreciate and reward them. At the same time if they do mistakes, discuss openly and explain the consequences they may face later on.
Never fight for your kids if they are wrong instead, make sure that they know it was their mistake and they need to learn from their mistakes.
Most of all as parents, as guardians, as elders it is our responsibility to first practice then preach.
Remember! Kids follow what their elders practice
Few tips to start:
- Talk over the issues you wish you would ‘have known about adulthood.
- Allow them to attempt things that stretch them and even let them fail
- Discuss future consequences if they fail to master certain disciplines
- Aid them in matching their strengths to real-world problems.
- Furnish projects that require patience, so they learn to delay gratifications.
- Teach them that life is about choices and trade-offs; they can’t do everything.
- Initiate (or simulate) adult tasks like paying bills or making business deals (small or big)
- Introduce them to potential mentors from your network.
- Help them envision a fulfilling future, and then discuss the steps to get there.
- Celebrate progress they make toward autonomy and responsibility.
How are you parenting your children is in your hand, I hope you are not sacrificing their long-term growth for short-term comfort J
To summarize remember the famous quote by A.P.J. Abdul Kalam
“My message, especially to young people is to have courage to think differently, courage to invent, to travel the unexplored path, courage to discover the impossible and to conquer the problems and succeed. These are great qualities that they must
work towards. This is my message to the young people.”
“Never say “I can’t afford” to your child, we should instead say, “How can I afford it?”
One is a statement, and the other is a question. One lets you off the hook, and the other forces you to think. My soon-to-be-rich dad would explain that by automatically saying the words “I can’t afford it,” your brain stops working. By asking the question “How can I afford it?” your brain is put to work. He did not mean buy everything you wanted. He was fanatical about exercising your mind, the most powerful computer in the world. “My brain gets stronger every day because I exercise it. The stronger it gets, the more money I can make.” He believed that automatically saying “I can’t afford it” was a sign of mental laziness.”
Ref: Rich Dad Poor Dad
No no don’t worry!
You are not going to read another chapter of boring advices.
Infact I am going to shed some light on how to deal with advices given by others.
When a piece of advice is given we have common understanding that most likely people have two options. Either they agree and say “Yeah, he’s right” Or simply reject the point of view by saying “Forget it he is just insane”
But wait a sec there is 3rd possible way of dealing with it!
It is always easy to decided whether to agree or disagree with that person but it might be more interesting to act differently,
E.g. In my case most of the time when I am given a piece of advice or different advices. Instead of immediately reacting, I will spend some time reflecting, Why does he/she say that? What is the reason? What best can happen if I agree to his point of view or what worst can it bring if I disagree?
With this practice over the period of time I have learnt that it is always wise enough to take some time and think. It ultimately opens up a way of thinking and give you enough room to decide on the best option.
In a long run it will turn out to be much more valuable rather than simply accepting or rejecting a single point of view.
At the end a small piece of advice from my side.
Next time when you are given a piece of advice take your time and think over it, analyze it, check all the possibilities of taking that particular advice in a positive sense and then decide whether to accept or reject it.
Thank you for reading, Your feedback is always appreciated
The month of Ramadan
serves as a season of spiritual renewal and gratitude for the bounties bestowed upon all human beings. It is a month in which families become closer, communities strengthen their foundations and individuals reaffirm their spiritual roots. It is also a time to share and care which are essential components of Ramadan, and to “give” to the less fortunate and we did a fantastic job last week as a team.
Last week many of our colleagues joined hands together to participate in this good cause and extending their support to pack and distribute Iftar to over a 1000 labourers. It was great to see the enthusiasm and positive spirit among the team and meant a lot, it was an amazingly memorable experience to all of us. Seeing so many of our colleagues coming together from all faiths to support this initiative simply shows that a little bit of sharing, caring and love can go a long way.
As we all know Ramadan is the month of giving, Please do not forget to continue with the same spirit throughout rest of the year.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts